This category is about the adult patterns that trace straight back to childhood — people-pleasing, hypervigilance, the fawn response, the brain that won’t let you rest even when you’re exhausted.
We look at where these patterns actually came from and what reparenting yourself looks like day to day, without the shame.
It’s the most exhausting game of pretend you never asked to play. You’re standing in the middle of a grocery aisle, or maybe at a family BBQ, and on the outside, you look “fine”. You’ve brushed your hair, you’re standing upright, and you might even be cracking a joke. But inside? Inside, your nervous system…
There is a specific kind of silence that happens when you’re chronically ill but look “fine.” It’s the silence of people watching you struggle and deciding you’re just lazy. It’s the sharp, jagged edge of a family member calling you “useless” because you can’t make…
You’ve been the strong one for so long that you don’t even remember what it feels like to lean on someone else. You’re the person everyone calls in a crisis. The one who holds it together when everything falls apart. The one who can handle…
You’re three years into therapy, and you still cry in the shower. You’ve read the self-help books, done the breathwork, and tried every damn coping strategy the internet has offered you, but you still get triggered. You still have hard days. You still feel like…
Let’s be honest: healing trauma while parenting is like trying to rebuild a house while living in it during a storm. You’re patching holes in your own foundation whilst simultaneously building a safe structure for your kids. And some days? Some days you’re just trying…
I spent most of my life wondering if I was losing my mind. Not in the dramatic, cinematic way. In the quiet, insidious way that happens when every doctor you see tells you there’s nothing wrong, while your body is literally falling apart. When you…
A gentle note before we begin: This post is raw and honest. We’re talking about the darkest days of chronic illness, including thoughts of wanting to give up and unhealthy relationship dynamics. If you aren’t in a place to read this right now, that is…
Let’s be honest. Nobody tells you that healing trauma while parenting feels like trying to rebuild a house whilst living in it during a bloody cyclone. You’re already running on empty. You’re touched out, overwhelmed, and questioning every parenting decision whilst trying to process your…
Nobody tells you this part when it comes to joy after trauma. After years of trauma, survival mode becomes your normal. And when you’ve lived in survival for too long, joy becomes something your body doesn’t quite know how to feel anymore. Not because you’re…