About Me

MY STORY (THE PART I NEVER SUGAR-COAT)

I grew up being misunderstood. The “dramatic” one, the “sensitive” one, the “it’s all in your head” one. My childhood was chaos. Abuse. Confusion. Zero safety. Zero validation.

By my teens, I was surviving, not living. Trauma on top of trauma. Pain no one took seriously. Doctors brushing me off. Adults telling me it was “just anxiety.”

In my twenties, I pushed through everything. The pain, the shutdowns, the trauma responses, the symptoms I didn’t have language for yet. I worked myself into the ground trying to be “normal,” masking every part of myself that didn’t fit the picture.

My thirties were the decade everything broke open. I became a mum. My health collapsed. The diagnoses finally came: Hypermobile Ehlers Danlos Syndrome (hEDS), Functional Neurological Disorder (FND), Mast Cell Activation Syndrome (MCAS), Dysautonomia, Autism and ADHD. Names that explained everything…and changed everything.

I was trying to raise two kids while my nervous system was barely functioning.
Trying to survive a failing marriage. Moving house over and over. Living in constant fight, flight, freeze, or collapse.

By my forties, my whole life had fallen apart and reassembled itself in new, unfamiliar ways. I separated from husband. I became disabled. I hit rock-bottom more than once. And through all of it, I was still trying to find myself.

This chapter? This version of me? She’s the one who stopped pretending.

I stopped forcing “positivity.” I stopped listening to people who’d never lived my reality. I stopped believing I had to fix myself to be worthy.

I learned to live slower. Softer. More honestly. More intentionally. More like someone who deserves compassion, because she does.

And now, I help other women do the same.

A FEW THINGS ABOUT ME:

• I swear a lot – naturally, not performatively.
• I parent from the couch, the bed, the floor, wherever my body allows.
• I believe in honesty over aesthetics.
• I like slow mornings, gentle routines, and anything that doesn’t overwhelm my nervous system.
• I built this business around my limitations – not around guilt.
• I still have bad days. A lot of them.
• I believe women like us deserve softness, safety, and support.

WHY I CREATED SHE SHINES ABUNDANCE

Because I was tired of every space online making me feel like I wasn’t “enough” unless I was positive, productive, or pretending to be healed.

I tried being the girl who “just raises her vibration” and “thinks positive thoughts.” It didn’t work. It made me feel worse.

I wasn’t broken – the advice was. It was never made for women living with:

• trauma
• chronic illness
• burnout
• neurodivergence
• survival mode
• single parenting
• a nervous system stuck on overload

So I created the space I needed:

• A space where healing isn’t a performance – it’s real, messy, slow, and human.
• A home for women who live life on hard mode.
• A place where you don’t have to fake light to be worthy of it.

WHO IS SHE SHINES ABUNDANCE FOR?

This space is for the women who:

• are chronically ill or neurodivergent
• grew up in trauma, chaos, or neglect
• feel guilty for not having energy
• have been dismissed by doctors
• parent with limitations
• feel behind in life
• have spent years holding everyone else together
• want peace without pretending
• want healing without pressure
• want a life that feels calmer, softer, more honest

If you’ve ever felt broken, dramatic, misunderstood, or “too much” you belong here.

You’re not broken. You’re human. And you deserve support that doesn’t sugar-coat your reality.

WHAT YOU’LL FIND HERE

Real guidance – the kind that doesn’t deny your pain

I talk about the hard stuff: the grief, the shutdowns, the meltdowns, the fatigue, the sensory overload, the parenting guilt, the trauma responses, the body that won’t cooperate.

Slow healing + nervous system–safe tools

No intense routines. No high-energy expectations.
Just simple, doable practices for real life.

Gentle mindset shifts for exhausted women

Not the “change your thoughts” nonsense – the “let’s meet your brain where it is” kind of support.

Trauma-aware growth that doesn’t retraumatize you

Honest, grounded, real healing that doesn’t expect you to be someone you aren’t.

Parenting support for chronically ill + neurodivergent mums

Because raising kids with a body or brain like ours is a whole different world.

Slow living, soft routines, and small intentional moments

A life that doesn’t drain you – a life that supports you.

My Healing Philosophy

Healing shouldn’t demand energy you don’t have.
It shouldn’t expect perfection.
It shouldn’t ignore trauma.
It shouldn’t shame you for needing rest.

My approach is simple:

1. Honesty first.

We name the hard stuff instead of pretending it doesn’t exist.

2. Nervous system over mindset.

You can’t “positive thought” your way out of a dysregulated body.

3. Small steps > big transformations.

Tiny shifts create real, sustainable change.

4. Rest isn’t laziness – it’s medicine.

Your body isn’t the enemy. It’s exhausted.

5. Your pace is valid.

Slow is still movement. Gentle is still healing. You’re not behind.

6. You’re allowed to shine in the dark.

Even when life feels heavy, you’re still becoming someone stronger, softer, and more whole.

Frequently Asked Questions

What is She Shines Abundance actually about?

It’s a space for chronically ill, neurodivergent, traumatised, burnt-out women who want real support – not fake light, toxic positivity, or “just try harder” advice.

Do I need to be “healed” to be here?

No. You can show up messy, exhausted, grieving, confused, overwhelmed, or just hanging on.
This space doesn’t require perfection – just honesty.

Is this a manifestation blog?

Not anymore.
This is trauma-aware, chronic-illness-friendly healing and mindset work – no forced positivity, no bypassing reality.

If you would like to learn more about Manifestation check out Self Made Ladies.

Do you give medical or therapeutic advice?

No. I share lived experience, gentle tools, nervous-system-safe approaches, and emotional support.
For medical stuff, talk to your doctor or specialist.

Will I fit in here even if my trauma or illness looks different from yours?

Absolutely.
Pain is pain.
Struggle is struggle.
You’re welcome here.

Do you show your face?

Sometimes. I run a mostly faceless platform because my health and sensory needs come first – but I show up when it matters.

What can I expect from your content?

Slow, grounded healing.
Honest mindset shifts.
Trauma-safe tools.
Chronic-illness parenting support.
Emotional validation.
No BS. No pressure. No “good vibes only.”